For the past seven or eight years, I have dedicated myself solely to taking care of my children as a full-time housewife. However, my youngest child will be twenty this year, making it difficult to continue staying in New Zealand for the sake of my children.
Two years ago, I started thinking about establishing a base in Japan. By the end of last year, I had established a base in a small town in Kanagawa Prefecture.
Returning to Japan and resuming my career as a dentist is one option, but it would restrict my freedom. It would be harder to travel freely between countries, and returning to a profession I’ve been away from for over ten years would be challenging. If necessary, it will happen; if not, I may never return to being a dentist.
I have lived for over half a century, and I am acutely aware of my overwhelming lack of social experience.
In recent years, I’ve hardly met anyone and have spent most of my time at home. To put it dramatically, I’ve been isolated from society, confined to my home, with little interaction with others.
The only social interaction I had was with my daughters’ friends and boyfriends, joining them for conversations and meals. If they weren’t Japanese, I’d engage them in conversation for English practice.
However, the time spent at home was actually a period of bliss and fulfillment for me. Free from troublesome human relationships, my children had grown up and no longer needed much attention. I was enjoying the newfound joy of music as an adult.
Yet, I chose to start engaging in activities and interacting with people again. Naturally, various things happen. I experience unpleasant things. Sometimes, despite acting with good intentions, I am made the villain and criticized. Even in these few months, so much has happened.
I do not wish to isolate myself or cause conflicts, of course. If misunderstandings lead to such outcomes, then I believe those events were necessary.
Only necessary things happen. Only what is necessary for me happens. Because it is necessary, it happens.
With this mindset, I understand that those who have left my life, those who no longer respond to my messages, were necessary at one point, but now we no longer need each other. It is not a severance or the result of conflict; it is simply the flow of necessary events.
Had we continued our relationships, we might have headed in a direction against our intentions. These numerous events teach me that I no longer need such experiences.
I started engaging with a small community to gain social experience.
Why am I actively seeking social interaction? It is for my growth. Humans learn a lot from experiences. Everything is perfect; only necessary things happen.
I want to experience, learn, and connect all necessary events in this life to the next steps before this life ends.
The phrase “Only what is necessary happens” is often associated with fatalism or the concept of karma. This way of thinking suggests that everything that happens in life has a reason and ultimately represents an experience necessary for oneself.
How one interprets this phrase varies from person to person, but it can be understood in the following ways:
Experiences for Growth:
Events as Part of Fate:
A Positive Perspective:
This phrase is often used to comfort or encourage people in difficult situations. Believing that every situation is a necessary experience helps maintain a positive attitude, no matter the circumstances.
